When you don’t know what God’s measure of success for you is, it’s easy to look at others and get jealous. And once you’re jealous, you’re poisonous.
Jealousy is defined as “feeling or showing an envious resentment of someone or their achievements, possessions, or perceived advantages.”
Do you know if you achieved the same thing as the person you are envious of, you could still be a failure, if that’s not what you were created to do or be?
At work, every department, employee has a work plan and key performance indicators that they are measured against at the end of each financial year. If I achieved what was set for my colleagues in another team or if I did better than someone else working in a different team, even if it made me feel or look good.. it would be a waste because that’s not what I’m there for.
“We don’t dare class or compare ourselves with some of the people who advertise themselves. In measuring themselves against each other and comparing themselves with each other, they are simply stupid. We will not boast about what lies outside the area of work which God has given us; rather, we will boast within our assigned area, and that area does reach as far as you.”- 2 Corinthians 10:12-13 CJB
James 3:16 says “where there is jealousy and selfish ambition, there will be disharmony and every foul practice.”
Do you see that jealous and selfish ambition go hand in hand. Selfish ambition means you are not in pursuit of what God has called you to, it’s not God’s purpose but what you want to do. And when you’re driven by jealousy and selfish ambition- you can literally do anything to get what you want. It opens the door for more sin. Can you think of a biblical example of someone that was jealous? How about you.. can you think of a time when you were jealous?
Do you remember what made you jealous, the kind of thoughts you had and how you overcame it? If yes please share in the comments.
So does that mean we shouldn’t consider what others are doing? No of course not.. but remember you are to run at the pace set by grace. Other people’s achievements should spur (encourage/inspire) to also do good work.
Hebrews 10:24 says “let us keep paying attention to one another, in order to provoke (spur) one another to love and good works.”
What others achieve should encourage or inspire you. Even if they are doing something similar or in the same field. It should let you know what God has called you to is possible! That’s a healthier and more godly perspective.
I pray that God will reveal to you the good work He ordained for you to do before the foundation of the earth. (Ephesians 2:10) and that God will give you the right perspective when it comes to the achievements of others. I pray that you will be encouraged by them and not discouraged in Jesus name. Remember Jealousy is a work of the flesh and if you don’t repent (change) of it, you will not inherit the kingdom of heaven. (Galatians 5:21).